More often than not I’m not even interested in talking to the girl; I just want to dance and have fun. Amazingly, when I do that, women are more attracted than when I start talking to them while dancing.
A certain amount of negligence after making an impression piques a woman’s interest, it is the whole psychological framework of the type of women who wants a strong man (check out this great article on Psychology Today by Gina Barreca, Ph.
This has proven to be essential for me when picking up women in Medellin. Socially, women are a little different than the southern California women I was used to picking up.
It is not usual for women in Medellin to go out by themselves just to let loose.
I’ve been here 5 years and I’m still floored at some of the women in my gym!
On the street, I am usually attracted to women who look as if they are on their way to an office job.
For an emasculated man from the United States, this is a nightmare.
At first glance, Medellin women do not perceive me as a foreigner due to the way I look.
So I do not have that instant “gringo effect” on them.
I do this often, and many times I will dance one or two songs without even saying a word.
Imagine, our hands are on each other’s bodies before even knowing each other’s names.
I am actually Colombian, my family is Colombian, and more importantly (aside from my height, 6’2″) I look Colombian.